A Little Bit About Me
I'm 36 years old, sufi, home owner, business owner, industrial designer, working on a fake MBA (feel free to.ask, lol). I have no time for games. I was marrried for almost 8 years and I have to say, it's weird being single and "on the market" again. Islamically, I am divorced, Ontario courts will need a few more months, which is why I'm listed as separated. My friends think I should start meeting women again, so here I am. I am interested in a partner from any ethnicity and nationality and all sects, as long as you are intelligent, have something you're passionate about, like to be active and you're not a bigot, we're good!
I was born in Montreal, grew up in the GTA, went to high school in the US, but came back home to Canada for Uni. I live in Toronto and I drive, so it's okay if you don't, I'll come to you. I have visited Pakistan 3 times in my life (age 2, 9 and 26), I've been to South America, Europe, the Middle East, Africa, and hopefully we will see many new places together too! I think my urdu is good, but apparently native Pakistanis don't agree, lol... my French is pretty basic, I get by in France and Quebec, but im not fully fluent. I'd love to learn your language if it's different from mine!
I'm passionate about design, art, architecture, food, mororsport and cars and I'm rediscovering my love for working out... I don't have kids so there's no excuse for dad-bod, lol! Getting shredded now, so I'll look good in the summer!
I want to meet my partner in crime, my hum-safar (co-traveller), my best friend and the one on whom I lavish all my affection and passion. If you like to travel, do active things, play sports, go kart, watch sports and eat good food, you should message me. Btw, I cook better than my mom, your mom, you and most restaurants too, don't be offended... I like to do fun things, go on adventures, eating and exploring in a new city... but I'm also good just hanging out at home reading, watching a documentary, playing boardgames with you, maybe a video game if you're into that.
I'd love to have brunch with you on a Saturday, go for a walk, watch a movie or Netflix with you... Most Sunday mornings are reserved for Formula 1. unless someone dies, I don't miss a race. I'll be up early, but you don't have to be; however, there will be fresh pour over coffee and breakfast in bed waiting for you, so... up to you.
I'll always do my best to treat you like a queen. I hope you'll make an effort to treat me well too.
We'll get along if we share some interests, if you're politically liberal and you understand how privilege works and why it hurts people. Or at the very least youre interested in understanding.
I strive to be a feminist, an ally to everyone with less access to privilege than me and I recognize the intersections of marginalization and how they compound the struggles of this world. I believe that the most salient part of being a good Muslim is being a good human and loving all of God's creation. Even the ones who hurt us.
As much as I honour and respect hijab and the women and men that actively defend and fulfill their hijab, I am not interested in forcing religion or a physical veil on anyone, not my furure wife, not my future daughters. Hijab is not just a scarf, it is a concept of protection, an active practice of modesty and it starts from within ourselves and it is apparent in where we allow ourselves to look, what we listen to, etc. The physical veil is the passive hijab and the last line of defense when your active hijab has failed and it's also the "lesser" hijab. If I can guard my eyes and thoughts, it doesn't matter how people are dressed, my hijab will be fulfilled. If a woman wants to cover, great, if she doesn't, also great, as long as it is her choice. I recognize that women have enough pressures from society and especially in Muslim majority cultures, probably even more in the diaspora, I know that your public actions are policed from so many different directions that you don't need us men also telling you how to dress! I just want to say, I recognize this and I'm on your side and always will be. Sorry if this was mansplain-y... I just wanted to convey that I'm an ally and your choice is the right choice for you! Your practice is between you and your God. I will defend you and your choices if need be.
If your relationship with Allah is good, it'll show in the way you treat His creation, that's what I care about. I'm looking for a loving, caring, respectful, human being. If a person takes care of this planet and the people and creatures God created, even if they don't pray, that person is a better Muslim in my opinion than someone who prays 10 times a day but treats their fellow creations with oppression and disrespect. if you're praying 10 times a day and you're still a mean person, you can have full certainty that your prayers are not being accepted. I want someone who's prayers are being accepted even if they are few in number. Accepted prayers means a real connection with Allah and a real connection with Allah means a kind merciful, benevolent character. If that's you, I've been searching for you...
I'm looking for a deep intellectual, emotional, spiritual and physical connection with my life partner. I need all 4 if this is going to work. please make an effort to connect with me or I'll assume your not interested or not capable of making a connection.
Insha Allah, if I find someone, this will be my second chance at marriage. I will not be making any compromises when selecting my future spouse this time. We will have to make many compromises together, every day and in order to happily make those compromises on a daily basis together and not resent them, I have to know that you are the one. The one for me!
As someone who was married to a wonderful person who ended up being wrong for me, I can tell you now that realizing you've made a mistake after years of marriage is not easy! I will need to know that we can have deep conversations, connect intellectually, emotionally and spiritually and at least have some indication that when we are able to connect physically that we're right for each other. I recommend you do the same. Make sure you marry the person you love and find irresistible in every way. Mind, body and soul...
If you're left of centre, into social justice, food and culture, you're not annoyed by a series of lists that are far too long to just be separated by commas and you have some sort of relationship with God, we'll be okay.
If you are a conservative, if you like guns, if you dont recognize that in the Americas, we are settlers on unceded land that rightfully belongs to the First Nations peoples, if you hate gay and trans folk, or people of different races, religions and socioeconomic backgrounds, you're not going to like me and I'm not going to like you. i stick up for the oppressed, always and without exception.
I'm not into wahabis/ salafis...
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